sorry

no pics or posting for the time being.. really busy for my first day daughter to school next week... will be post next time. TQ for drop by here...

sorry to all friends who came here n saw nothing new... so sorry....

peace...

okada

these two photoes above maybe just an ordinary motorcycles... But in Nigeria, it's called OKADA. It was motorcycle taxi.

okada riders take a rest.. hmm.. maybe... or maybe waiting for customers..

okada in the road...

sorry, the quality of photo not so good.. because just captured thru phone... maybe next time when i go out, i will bring along a camera... and most of the photo taken from inside the moving car... hmmmmmmmm....

table clothes african motive

me and my friend bargain for the table clothes.

berbuih ayaq liur bargain... still not satisfied with the prices.. but i manage to get one the yellow and orange one with good price.. 1200naira... which is the price from the seller was 2500Naira... giler mahal. sib baik berbaloi kering air liur.. hehe

nigerian craft

big necklaces.. i think this one not to wear.. because really big. just for home decor..

necklaces.. made from beads, gading gajah...

all this stuff prices range from 800Naira and above... ( Rm 20 keatas lah kiranya.. huhu) mahal kan... but with bargain, we can get one maybe 300naira.. ( rm10)...

the people...

basket seller... full of basket all over his body... again, the basket not even cheap.. need to bargain.

craft men sells african jewelary like necklaces, bracelets...

climb the coconut tree.. very expert one...

everybody watching for the climber... waiting for coconut...

small nigerian kid. pity him with his dirty cloth n pant.. ( koyak lagi...) and without slippers or shoes..

nigeria map

this is nigeria map. for those who didnt know where is nigeria.

Nigeria is a big country... and now i'm staying in Lagos. lagos is Nigeria Business centre. Before it was a capital of nigeria, buat because of the overpack crowds so, the capital state move to Abuja.

Things to do in Lagos.. I even dont know.. this place not suitable for travelling.. But a lots expart was here just to work here.. help the economy in nigeria grow well.. maybe.. hmmm...

market in lagos...

carrot, tomato, and few fruit was selling there.. the place not even clean.. hmmm...


the crowds.. bargain n maybe some argument to buy thing. normally when 'whiteman' ( foreigner or oyibo in nigerian language..), the price is higher.. so bargain till u agree with the price. otherwise, just leave it.. find another stall.. huhu

craft market... some craft i love like table clothes, wooden salad bowl n fork n spoon... buat as usual have to bargain... ( sampai kering anak tekak.. lol)

craft also...

groceries store or mini market... everything is there.. but the price not fixed ok..

* all the photoes not mine... just search in yahoo image. but this market is call lekki market that my husband will go there twice a month.. me myself have been there only once just to buy craft! The reason my husband do all the shopping in the wet market.. because he is good in bargain.

traffic

two photoes above showed the worst traffic of lagos. this photoes i took from yahoo image. mine still in my other laptop.

but it was the traffic. car goes slow.. the driver keep on yelling, pressed the horn.. noisy, hot.. n stuck into traffic with small children make me headache . as many people selling things in the middle of the road n roadside.

When the first time i was here, i asked the driver, why the selling stuff like that.. he said to me, lagos is business centre.. ohhh... i cant say anything.. because how poor they are.. sometimes i feel pity of them. thank to Allah al Mighty, we in malaysia can live in comfort although we not rich .

things to do...

1. ironing clothes... my laundry look like mountain.. haha

2. tidy up the toys room. so long i didn't tidy up because of busy.. dont want to say no enough time because everybody have the same time a day.. 24 hours.. but maybe a bit lazy, and just ask the kids to clean up.. still messy... huhu

other tihings to do as usual.. cooking, cleaning, sweeping... ( i prefer vacumming.. huhu)... domestic housework..

gonna go to shopping maybe this week.. maybe goodies..

there's so many stories to tell since my last post last month before we went to south africa vacation.

1. few day before leaving lagos for vacation, my maid ( here we called steward) was sacked. it was because she took a few stuff from the house. i just found out the thing went missing just the day before we went vacation during to pack all the stuff in teh luggage. for me, she was not honest when stealing the stuff.. the kid's clothes. even a few mine n hubby's...

2. the part of the maid stories became havoc since the police investigated her.. took her 2 the police post (shell police!). but dammed... the maid still not admit her fault.. dammed...

3. all the friend showed their care by visit us, make a phone call, YM... just to hear from me the stories.

4. the maid was banned to work in any expartriate compound.. serve her right!

now... i dont have any steward. i'm happy with it.. because no need to think about how rude they are, the safety about us... about our things in the house... thus, i have to built my trust again to nigerian..

sorry to say nigerian, there no place for u in my house... i gave u better living by hiring u, paid u salary to make ur live better... give u food, treat u nicely.. but what u repay me.. u even stealing my stuff... dammed...

Vacation

tomorrow, we will be leaving lagos heading tu Johannesburg, then to Durban...

and... 2 weeks vacation driving all the way from Durban to Cape Town, South Africa...

sound good?? maybe.. hopefully will enjoy ourselve there..

can't wait to out from this hussle Lagos! huh!

busy busy busy

busy busy busy.......... i don't like this kind of word... people claimed that they're busy of everything. As a human, we have 24 hours a day, so use the time in a quality way.. huhu... but sometimes i always said that i'm busy...

yeah.. to tell the truth, Right now, I'm busy preparing n packing all the stuff for vacation 2 weeks to South Africa. This week. I'm busy to manage the house before we off for vacation. Then on Wednesday, we ( ladies only... malaysian), will have a gathering in Shirley's house.. ( one of my Mlaaysian friend cum my neighbour!)

also busy gossip, forum, bla bla... then my blog also long time no update...


ahhhh... keep on trying hard to improve my english... sometimes feel dissapointed but never been give up... keep on trying. practise makes perfect..

so , from end of this week until mid June, no internet, no computer.. just have fun n enjoy myself at South Africa. can't wait to go there.. hahahha...

Apologize to the Children

As a mother, sometimes I scolded my kids, I yelled at them, and sometimes I hurt their feeling. So, it doesn't mean that I not love them. Just to tought them a proper mannars in my own way.

But as a adult, it not a mistake if I appologized to them when I hurt their feeling. For me, by doing like that , i can teach the children the meaning of forgiveness, their responsibility when they doing the wrong thing....

so this is what i read thru the internet.. and the thing that i practice for a long times...


Step1

Realize that you have made a mistake. Accept this responsibility, or the benefit of the apology is lost. The apology must be genuine. Remember that children are quite perceptive and will know that you are not sincere.


Step2

Remain calm. If you are too angry to think clearly, tell your child that you need to spend some time alone before continuing the conversation. Think about what happened and why. Assess your feelings by thinking about how you would describe what happened to an adult friend.


Step3

Apologize simply and directly. Express regret or sadness at the hurt you have caused. Apologize for your behavior, not yourself. You might say, "I am sorry I lost my temper and called you lazy and worthless." This is more effective than saying "I am sorry I am a thoughtless and impatient mother."


Step4

Don't excuse your behavior by blaming your child. Saying "If you weren't always late, I wouldn't have gotten so angry" just shifts the blame to your child and diminishes the effectiveness of the apology. Saying "I'm sorry....but" sounds accusatory and doesn't work as an apology. Save a discussion of the underlying problem (e.g., you missed the bus again because you sleep too late) for another time.


Step5

Ask yourself and your child how it could have gone better. Ask what you could have done differently to avoid the problem. Review both your behavior and your child's together and ask each other how to handle similar problems in the future. Be sure to ask for forgiveness. Saying "I was wrong, will you please forgive me?" reinforces your feelings of regret while giving your child an understanding of the power of forgiveness.


Step6

Remember that you're not perfect and that you will make mistakes. The important thing is to acknowledge your mistake and move on. Remind yourself of all of the good things you have done as a parent, and know that your well-made apology is now one of them.

Fasting today...

After a few months keep on postpone to 'qada' fasting, so i think this is the time i have to do so. I hope i will finish all my 'qada' fasting before we out to vacation in South Africa by June 5th. I have 5 more days to go.. ohhh....

So, today, i have to keep calm, not tempered to steward of course... haha...

But, this morning, she keep on answering me when i talked to her. so that, i have to yell at her just because i want her to hear what I'm trying to tell her, not to answering me. Auch... cut out my 'pahala' today because of that.. hahaha...

shopping online..

This morning, i sat on the chair in front the pc just to browse the online shopping. Nothing to buy, just have a look at Ebay and Amazon.com... Just to glance at the handbags, books, and a few kitchenware stuff there.

Actually, when i was in Houston, my hubby always bought something thru online. Usually, every week, there will be somebody knocked the door to send the parcel.. So, when we moved to Lagos, i really miss the shopping online. Miss that somebody will knock my door just to send me something maybe a surprised from hubby to me. And here, in the new place, i found out a lots of stuff in the house that we bought online.. including te stereo, Plasma Tv, home theather. And also mostly of the books in the bookcase we bought thru amazon.com.

i feel like enjoying myself thru shopping online. that's make me miss US very much.. And that's why, i always browse the shopping website just to entertain my eyes...lol..

( need somebody to help me with the grammer... lol)